It Will Be Okay — Even When It Doesn’t Feel Like It
Through childhood trauma, poverty, substance abuse, postpartum depression and psychosis, wealth, betrayal, divorce, separation from my children, complete isolation to putting my nursing license on the line, and the death of many loved ones (young and old)- I have experienced it all.
I have learned more than I ever thought was possible thus far in my life. But through it all, I have learned that everything will be okay. No matter what, no matter the depth of pain or struggle, it always has a way of turning right side up- I think that is why I am unable to stay in such grief; because of this knowledge I earned resiliency.
Never give up!
Finding Your Niche—and Letting It Explode Within You
Finding your niche unfolded quietly, through repetition and return. Through the things my hands reached for without thinking. Through rhythms that steadied me when everything else felt unanchored.
Wood taught patience—how grain resists force and rewards attention. Music offered harmony, not as perfection, but as resonance. Gardening revealed timing and trust, reminding me that growth happens in its own season. And love—enduring, imperfect, hard-won—showed me that meaning often lives in what lasts, not what begins easily.
These threads were never separate. They formed a pattern I could feel long before I could name it. A constellation of signals pointing inward, asking for listening rather than choosing.
Your niche awaits recognition; let’s walk and talk together about what steadies you…
My Darling Daughters; This is The Most Important Thing I have Learned
There was a time in my life when I believed love should understand my silence. I thought that if someone cared deeply enough, they would sense what I needed without my having to say it.
Life taught me otherwise.
Silence does not protect the heart—it leaves it carrying too much alone.
Needs that go unspoken do not fade; they quietly turn into distance.
I wrote this letter because I want you to know something earlier than I did: your voice is safe to use, and it matters.
These words are here to guide you, to remind you, and to walk beside you when you need them.
Changing our Childhood Story
Widening the Lens of Memory
We often remember childhood through its sharpest edges. The moments that hurt, the times we felt alone, misunderstood, or unsafe tend to rise first. This isn’t because they were the only things that mattered, but because pain demands attention.
What we forget is that alongside those moments, there were others that did not require survival. Quiet joys. Small consistencies. Spaces where we felt absorbed, curious, or calm. These experiences did not disappear. They were simply overshadowed when pain became louder.
Revisiting childhood is not about denying what hurt. It is about restoring balance. When we widen the lens, we begin to see that our story is not defined solely by what overwhelmed us, but also by what sustained us. You are not your past. You are the one who carries it—and that means it can be held differently.
Unconditional vs Conditional Love: How to Tell the Difference and How Intuition Guides the Healthier Choice
Unconditional love is often misunderstood as endless tolerance. In truth, unconditional love does not mean unconditional access. Love can be real, deep, and sincere while still requiring boundaries, accountability, and self-respect. Conditional love controls; unconditional love honors—without abandoning the self.
Step-by-Step Guide to Clearing Your Karma
Clearing your karma doesn’t require rituals, guilt, or spiritual theatrics. It requires honesty, reflection, and the willingness to take responsibility for your inner world. This step-by-step guide walks you through practical ways to clean up emotional residue, close open loops, and choose responses that align with the person you’re becoming.
Human Regard & Karma
Karma isn’t mystical—it’s relational. It forms in moments of respect or neglect, presence or avoidance. Human regard is the point where intention meets consequence, where how we treat others becomes the blueprint for what follows us forward. Nothing is neutral. Everything counts.
Emotionally Connected Children: Why Their Sensitivity Is a Strength, Not a Struggle
A child who feels deeply is a child who sees clearly. Their emotional awareness is a strength that will guide them for life.
Seasons of Silence: Rebuilding Relationships After Communication Breaks Down
Every relationship experiences cycles—periods of bloom, stillness, decay, and regrowth. The Seasons of Silence explores the quiet spaces that follow emotional distance, misunderstanding, or pain. Rather than treating silence as failure, it reframes it as a natural, if uncomfortable, part of human connection—a winter that prepares the heart for spring.
The piece examines how unspoken tension can either erode trust or nurture reflection, depending on how it’s held. Through humility, curiosity, and consistency, silence becomes a teacher—revealing the difference between avoidance and peace, isolation and introspection.
It’s an invitation to see distance not as the end of love’s story, but as a season within it.
Preparing the Heart 2.0: Intuition as Our Inner Compass with Him in mind
Illustration by Sophie
Understanding Intuition
Intuition isn’t magic—it’s the quiet knowing beneath the noise. It speaks in nudges, in that small pull toward or away from something before your mind can explain why. Most people mistake it for coincidence or emotion, but intuition is older than both. It’s the soul’s way of guiding you through logic’s blind spots. When you learn to recognize its voice—steady, calm, certain—you stop chasing answers and start remembering them.
I Trust in God
Pain and grief are heavy emotions to carry alone. There comes a point where holding it all together becomes unmanageable than the breaking itself. That’s where trust begins—not in certainty, but in surrender. I’ve learned that trusting God isn’t about pretending everything’s fine; it’s about opening my hands and admitting I can’t carry it all. In that release, something shifts. Peace doesn’t rush in like a flood—it settles, quietly, where striving used to live.
The Small Man Syndrome & Respecting the Bigger Person
Being the “bigger person” isn’t about size or gender—it’s about restraint, dignity, and choosing peace over ego. The smaller man reacts to every insult and clings to being right. The bigger person pauses, reflects, and protects their integrity. We’ve all been both. The real question is: who are you choosing to be right now?
Learning to Lean
There’s a sacredness in letting someone steady you. In admitting, “I can’t hold all of this today,” and watching a friend quietly step closer. Leaning isn’t losing your footing; it’s trusting that love will catch you before you fall.
Maybe real strength isn’t about how long we can stand alone, but how honestly we can lean together.
