My darling girl; my youngest I feel like you and I have had the least time and my hope is to have the rest of our days together.

you are amazing to me, in every way and i trust you with my whole heart. I know that you love me just as much as I love you and it will never change.

The moment we are brought together again, is the day I will never let you go nor give anyone any reason to feel the need to separate us.

Every single day I think about you, I dream about you, I pray for you. This is the hardest experience I have had to face on my journey in life- truly- I believe we will be 100 times stronger because of it.

Some milestones don’t look like trophies or titles.

They arrive in small moments of recognition—when others trust your judgment, value your integrity, and ask for your voice. This letter is about one of those moments, and why I wanted my girls to know it mattered more than they might realize.

Photography by Shanda Kaus, Abraham Lake, Alberta, Canada in December 2025 (An epic milestone)

I feel deeply; like many and am proud of my depth. Having hard emotions is a part of life. Being able to experience these emotion is a blessing, the opposite of not feeling at all would be not existing. Sharing with others what one feels is the most effective pathway to take in processing difficult situations.

This letter speaks to my humanity, not my fragility. I experience hard emotions, and I know how to tend to them. They belong to me, not to my children. Nothing is broken. Nothing is unsafe. It is okay and will always be okay in the end.

Happy Birthday Sophie ❤️

There are not enough words in any language to express the depth of my love for you. Not even all the languages combined-

I love you.

I know you feel my depth.

I know that there are no words to explain.

I am always with you-

Always

A letter for you my baby girls.

I love you so much.

I miss you more than words can say.

Parental alienation is real- And it’s super painful. it hurts as a parent but hurts the children more than anything else.

I am a Mother who hasn’t been able to be with my three daughters for over 2 years despite all my active effort. I think about them all the time. When I lay down for bed I struggle; I struggle to sit still because the thought of my girls is something out of my control. Words can not express the depth of my pain. It’s grief like no other.

Cowboy dress up day in elementary school; my two year old adores her older sisters- I aM so grateful for their love for eachother ❤️

Children don’t just survive divorce—they internalize it. In homes where one parent chooses manipulation over cooperation, the child becomes a casualty in a quiet war they never asked to fight. Parental alienation doesn’t just break hearts—it rewrites a child’s sense of who they are and who they’re allowed to love. And while mistakes are made in every separation, it’s the persistence of control, distortion, and emotional sabotage that causes the deepest wounds. Healing begins when we stop pretending both sides always hold equal blame.

— from The Cultivated Intuit