It Will Be Okay — Even When It Doesn’t Feel Like It
This has been true for me in the worst of scenarios and trust me- I have been the worst of the worst. You name it and I have been experienced it-
One of the most important things I’ve learned in life is this: no matter the course, everything works out for the best—and it will be okay.
That doesn’t mean life is easy. It means life is workable.
I started to write this article for those in their formative years and quickly acknowledged that no matter what age we are we are always growing and learning. This advice is geared towards all individuals across the lifespan. If you’re living in a season where emotions run high, opinions feel heavy, and the future can feel both exciting and terrifying at the same time.
Some days you feel confident and capable.
Other days, you wonder if you’re doing anything right.
That swing is normal. It’s part of growing.
“Okay” Doesn’t Mean Perfect
When people say, “Everything will be okay,” it can sound dismissive—especially when things hurt. But “okay” doesn’t mean flawless. It means:
You survive the thing you thought you wouldn’t
You learn something you didn’t expect
You become stronger in a quiet, unflashy way
You discover parts of yourself you didn’t know were there
Think of life like a long hike. Some paths are sunny and smooth. Others are rocky, muddy, and exhausting. You don’t stop being on the right trail just because it’s hard. You’re still moving forward—even when you need to rest.
When Things Go Wrong (Because They Will)
Friendships change. Feelings get hurt. You might fail a test, lose someone important, or feel left out when you least expect it. When that happens, your brain might jump to conclusions:
This will always feel this way.
I messed everything up.
Something must be wrong with me.
Here’s the truth: feelings are powerful, but they are not permanent facts. They are messengers, not life sentences.
What feels like the end of the world today often becomes a turning point tomorrow. Not because the pain wasn’t real—but because you grew around it.
You Are Not Behind
Social media makes it look like everyone else has life figured out. They don’t.
Everyone is learning in real time—just like you.
You don’t need to have your future mapped out. You don’t need to know who you’ll become. Your only job right now is to keep showing up, stay curious, and be kind to yourself while you’re learning.
Growth isn’t loud. Most of it happens quietly—inside your thoughts, your choices, and how you talk to yourself when no one else is listening.
Trust the Long View
Life has a strange way of rearranging things in your favor, even when it doesn’t look like it at first. What feels like a setback can become protection. What feels like a loss can become freedom. What feels like confusion can become clarity later on.
You don’t have to force it. You don’t have to rush it.
Keep going. Keep learning. Keep being honest with yourself.
It will work out.
And you will be okay—stronger, wiser, and more grounded than you can imagine right now
The Choice is Yours
Life is what you make it, if you focus on the feelings and experiences that cause you a negative impact, the impact will be negative. If you focus on the things that bring you peace and joy; you will experience an increased level of peace and joy.
Feelings are not permanent, they change, and you will find your balance again.
I have struggled severely with relationships and the feelings that arose within me. In those moments, the last thing I wanted to hear was “I know it doesn’t feel like it now, but you will be okay again.” I felt like nothing was ever going to be okay, ever again. I was wrong.
In hindsight; had someone sat me down, said to me (and kept saying) the following;
“If I know you are struggling and your feelings seem incomprehensible to the outside world, your feelings are real but that is just it, they are feelings and feelings change. This is not the end instead it is the start of something profound. You have been given the opportunity to become the best version of yourself. The path that leads you to the best version is not going to be easy but it will be worth it. Time does heal, have patience with yourself and believe that good things are ahead of you.”
